Stop telling me to smile

“Smile love, it’s not the end of the world”

I’m sure many women like myself hear this phrase on a weekly basis. It begins with you simply minding your own business, either sitting on a train, walking down the street or simply standing somewhere waiting for a friend whilst scrolling through your phone to avoid awkward eye contact with a stranger. Then out of no where, a stranger walks past me and says that dreaded expression.

Normally, when this happens I simply just stare blankly at the passer-by and my brain does not process a reply in enough time (usually this happens hours later when it is no use to me at all) and then I just carry on with my day and except that I have resting bitch face. The reason for this post is that last week whilst I was at a pub minding my own business at the bar whilst my boyfriend was paying for my pint, a middle-aged man approached me and loudly said, “How rude are you?! Standing on your phone, not saying hello and smiling at us!” I panicked, looked up from my phone and without thinking forced a smile across my face and sheepishly said, “hello”. The man smiled back and then carried on his conversation with someone else. I quickly grabbed my pint and sat in the smoking area rather annoyed.

Why should I smile and say hello? I understand being polite but why was I pressured into it? Why is it anyone else’s business that I smile? Why does it bother you so much if i smile or not? Why do I owe you a smile?


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Like I said before, this has happened on more than several occasions. Not long ago, I was walking along a busy high street when a man bolted passed me quickly and scorned, “smile, bitch”. I scowled at the man and went back to looking at my phone. A friend of mine has told me that one day when she was commuting to work a man suggested that if she smiled she would look a lot prettier. Thanks for the tip random stranger but it really isn’t any of your business.

This isn’t a post ranting about men, I’m sure many people have these experiences regardless of gender. This is just explaining a situation that has happened to me that I’m tired of.

So no I will not smile for your satisfaction random stranger, I will smile for myself and occionally at dogs on the internet. Until then just except my resting bitching face.


Images designed by Brooklyn-based artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh

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Sneaks and Peaks 6

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Nike Air Yeezy 2 Pure Platinum

On the 28th March, Jon and I went to Sneaks and Peaks 6th event based at Boxxed in Digbeth. This is the 3rd one I’ve been to and it never ceases to disappoint me. Considered as one of Birmingham’s top Urban lifestyle events Continue reading

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Snapchat--6281054499108565956The other weekend, my boyfriend Jon and I decided to go to Penarth for the day and actually do something with our weekend. Jon comes to visit me most weekends and we always say we will have an adventure day but never do! So for once we actually got out of bed instead of having our usual Walking Dead marathon, although our day didn’t really start till 12 and then we decided to have pizza so I guess it wasn’t much of an adventure day but more of a few nice hours of fresh air.

Penarth is a small upmarket town in the Vale of Glamorgan, we decided to get a train from Cardiff Queen Street, the journey takes approximately 20 minutes and tickets are £2.70. As soon as we got there we were desperate to go to the beach – after all we are from the Midlands meaning beaches are a rare sight for us. The beach was no less than a 15 minute walk but we decided to take the scenic route and walked through a park full of little pathways and bridges.

Once we got to the beach we was welcomed by the sight of Penarth Pier Pavilion – a fully restored Art Deco building – home to a cinema, gallery, cafe and restaurant overlooking the pebble beach and cliffs. Despite the blustering winds there was still a few rays of sunshine to enjoy whilst having a walk on the pier with our ice cream cones. We didn’t really get to experience the food much as we are both tight for money but we found a small pizza cafe where you could buy a slice of pizza for £1.60 which was pretty cool. Well we found it cool anyway but we are easily entertained.


It was nice for a change to actually explore the locations around me, I’ve been living in Cardiff for almost two years and haven’t really explored much of it. I will definitely be visiting Penarth again, hopefully next time there will be more sunshine.



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Adidas X Pharrell Supercolour Superstars Review

Okay, so a few weeks ago Adidas X Pharrell Supercolour Superstars were released in 50 colours! I don’t think there has ever been such a choice of colourways dropped on just one release date so Pharrell has definitely broken a few boundaries! Last week I finally got my my hands on a pair. Continue reading

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“Life and Death” – Guest Lecture Series – Mark Hutchings

Traditional journalism Vs Contemporary Journalism – as part of our guest lecture programme Mark Hutchings @markhutchings1Radio 5 live reporter came to talk to us about the decline of traditional media and how an iPhone is a necessity in the world of reporting these days! Continue reading

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